my child might have Attention Deficit Disorder?

• Restless or overactive                  
• Excitable, impulsive
• Disturbs other children
• Fails to finish things he or she begins
• Short attention span
• Constant fidgeting
• Inattentive, easily distracted
• Demands must be met immediately
• Easily frustrated
• Cries often and easily
• Mood changes quickly and drastically
• Temper outbursts, explosive and unpredictable behavior

• One or both spouses feel that the other does not listen or understand.  When the wife, especially, feels this way on a regular basis, major problems arise.
• Destructive Criticism – One or both regularly criticize the other in ways that tear each other down instead of building each other up.
• Defensiveness – When you feel the need to defend yourself on a regular basis that signals that one or both of you are using attacking language in your communication.
• Contempt – This is often a sign of long-standing unresolved bitterness and anger
• Shutting down – when problems arise, one or both spouses shut down, to avoid the pain of dealing with them. This is highly detrimental to your marriage, and may in itself lead to a split.
• In trying to resolve conflict you: A) go around in circles, and end up returning to a major hot-button issue B) you don’t “fight fair” – you are in a cycle of mutual blame and hurt feelings, you bring up past issues, violate boundaries by involving non-interested parties, among many other errors.
• Persistent feelings of deep sadness, anger, or worry about past behaviors or possible future occurrences
• Addictions: drug/alcohol, gambling, eating, sexual, pornography (internet, especially), among others
• Major emotional issues (infidelity, abuse history) remain unresolved, which affect the couple’s intimacy.
• One or both spouses report feeling overwhelmed, unvalued or unappreciated
• When trust and empathy break down, the road to healing can be long and difficult. The sad fact is that many couples delay counseling until the depth of hurt feelings has made one or both believe that the marriage can’t be salvaged; they are in crisis. This may be why some people think that marriage counseling “doesn’t work”.  Nothing could be further from the truth. Think of it as catching an illness in its early stages. When you do that, your chance of healing is very good.

• Developed tolerance to some of the effects of the substance
• Mental preoccupation with obtaining and using substance
• Using more than intended
• Mixed success at attempts to control use
• Withdrawal symptoms when user stops using substance
• Giving up social, occupational or recreational activities because of use
• Use of substance continues despite negative consequences

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